Proverbs 31 woman, laundry and inner beauty

Tonight we studied about inner beauty and what it means to be a Christian woman with quiet and gentle spirit. Proverbs 31 was always used as an example of what a Christian woman should be like. I don't know about others but I always feel inadequate after reading it. The standards are so high and it is so easy to get bogged down in all the things that I fail at. How do I become that woman? How can I do everything with a smile on my face and happy spirit? Housework is not my strongest point, there is always something that needs to be cleaned, picked up, or ironed. Part of it is pure lazyness. I just don't feel like doing it. Did Proverbs 31 woman ever feel like that? I wish the Bible would tell how she got over that and worked through that. Did she ever feel so tired that she simply didn't care that there are dirty dishes and laundry overflowing? How do you stop feeling like a failure in almost everything you do because you don't feel like you measure up?